How to Make a Sincere Apology

I've had to do a lot of apologizing in my day. Sometimes my heart wasn't really in the apology and it did more harm than good.  But other times, by God's grace, I've felt a genuine sense of remorse over the pain I've caused others. If you want to offer a heartfelt apology these patterns … Continue reading How to Make a Sincere Apology

“Is It Safe There?”: Code Words for Racism?

A seemingly harmless question about safety can mask deep-seated racism.  Sometimes "Is it safe?" or "That's not a good part of town," are code words for "I'm afraid of [insert black or brown-skinned minority] people." I recently came across an article by Brian Dahlen (a White brother) entitled, "Is It Safe There?", where Brian states … Continue reading “Is It Safe There?”: Code Words for Racism?

Marriage is a Calling, Too

Marriage often comes second to public ministry in the life of a Christian.  But God's pattern for marriage demands greater attention to this sacred institution. My wife and I recently clashed about how much time I spend doing ministry-related stuff instead of spending time with her at home.  Staff meetings, small groups, Sunday morning worship, … Continue reading Marriage is a Calling, Too

Five Reasons to Confront Even If You Hate Confrontation

I hate conflict.  As a peacemaker by nature, I just want everyone to be happy.  Even it if means choking down my own opinions and convictions, a lot of times I'd rather just act as if everything is fine rather than have an argument with someone. A Recent Confrontation There's nothing like a road trip … Continue reading Five Reasons to Confront Even If You Hate Confrontation

Four Reasons Why I Married My Wife: Words for our Fourth Anniversary

I married my wife four years ago on this day.  No other relationship, except for my relationship with Jesus Christ, has been more significant or life-changing than the one with my spouse.  I love her with my whole heart.  So on our fourth anniversary I share four reasons why I married my wife. We are complete … Continue reading Four Reasons Why I Married My Wife: Words for our Fourth Anniversary